Take a moment and think of what a friend is to you? In my opinion a real friend is (insert description here).
I realize everyone probably thinks I answer this question with Jesus but hey although He is the ultimate bestie that’s not my answer. We know He is the ultimate bestie. He is Jesus! He is perfect!
See as kids it seemed like a real friend is the person you spent all your time with. You know the one you have inside jokes with and finish not just each other’s sentences but thoughts too! Oh and you are so completely telepathic (if that’s even a thing). Don’t get me wrong my life long best friend that I totally had telepathy with and did everything with is still my longest best friend. She is happily married to an amazing man and I am so happy he is her life long best friend! They are great! She and I are still besties and will always be! I have no doubt!
Friendship in Jr. High and High school you learn is spread between a few friends. They also share this telepathy with you and you do crushes together, these are the group of girls you travel to the restroom with because you know we go in groups, and also just the girls you hangout with. Yes, I do still have a few very good friends from those years as well! One, who is now married, one in a relationship, and another who lives a few hours away but we all still keep in touch.
College introduced what a real friend is though. See the Lord showed me in college that just like His word says in Proverbs 17:17, a friend really does love at all times. Though thick and thin! Through laughter and tears. Through hugs and distance. A real friend loves you when you don’t deserve to be loved. Even when you reject that love a real friend continues to love. They are the person that though you may not see them much you still consider them a friend. They are the person that when times get rough and scary you talk to them. They hold you and tell you its ok. They are the ones who cry with you. The ones that when you feel like you have to be strong around everyone else they see straight through you and let you be weak. They tend to frequently be used by Jesus in your life.
See a real friend is the person you call when you find out you have a brain tumor because you know you will need to talk for at least 20 minutes with your family members because you need time to explain and its ok to only talk to your friend for a few minutes before seeing the next doctor because you just need to talk to someone and then explain more later. The friend that when you text and say I need to talk and they ask if it can wait cause they had a hard day, you are able to say no I really need to talk now. They are the ones who are like family but not that close.
A real friend is the person who you are willing to drop what you are doing just to help them be silly. The friend that you are willing to get woke up by text and/or phone call at 4 a.m. because they need to talk or stay up with them until 4a.m. because of fun. They are the people that tend to come in and out of seasons in life but you know that they are purposed by God for this time. They are a lot like family yet different.
See in my college friendships I have seen that Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times,
and a brother is born for adversity.”
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit,[g] serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.
are played out.
See although my friends growing up showed this too, I have been able to see it so much clearer in college. Most likely because life is a little more crazy and more stuff happens in college than when you are younger.
No matter where life takes me I have the memories of these amazing people who are constantly there for me and make me stand in awe of the Lord knowing that He is even more so there for me. See I know most likely I won’t be besties with these people forever cause life happens. We get lead different ways and that is a beautiful thing. But I will always know that they are there for me and I am there for them. I guarantee in 30 years I would still be there for them if they randomly showed up at my door. And Lord willing that are paths cross again after we have gone separate ways then how cool! But for now I am greatful for all I have learned through these wonderful people I get to call my friends.
I guess my point is that friendship is something that God has blessed us with and we should always cherish it no matter how rough it can get. Christ calls us to live in community with one another, bearing each others burdens and that is exactly what friendship provides.
2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, 3 eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.4 There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call—5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism,6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.7 But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ’s gift.
Next I right about my family!